Great parents are the stuff the stars are made of. Great fathers are a breed that deserve recognition. This is for all the hard-working fathers who may not be around all the time, because their jobs take them away from the home.
You work ridiculously long hours and are hardly ever home. When you are, you are exhausted from those long hours at the grind, fighting out every order in the trenches of a hot kitchen one plate at a time. Whether your industry is Food & Beverage, Hospitality, or just any one that takes you away from family meals every evening, we are all in the same boat. You put everything into your work so you can be the best provider you can be. It’s hard, but somehow you manage to keep your heart in two places at once.
While you help to make the first anniversary of the couple at table 9 the most memorable, or try to close the deal at the critical business meeting with the gentleman who just won’t get to the point, your eyes are on the clock because it’s your child’s birthday and you really want to be home before sleep takes her over. You know she is trying to fight it herself, jumping up every time her eyes close for a minute, because she won’t have good dreams until daddy kisses her goodnight and stays with her a bit.
The life of a chef is not easy. We have lamented that fact before. But there is a bittersweet challenge of being a chef dad.
Your children learn to take career paths that make them happy. To work hard and live and work with passion. They learn that daddy may be away most times, but its only because he works so hard to take care of them. And when he is home and has gotten to catch up on his sleep, he is a really fun guy! They learn to appreciate the strength and commitment of their moms and how mothers and fathers have to work hard together to make a family work.
Little girls know that Daddy will always be there to protect them…. there is just something about the way you use the knives in the kitchen at home or the way you look so tall and strong and allow them to jump up into your arms. Little boys take pride that their dads can do pretty cool tricks and love their “man time” alone with you. They grow up wanting to be just like you.
Your wife may get her share of exhaustion from doing most of the active parenting alone, but she knows she couldn’t have chosen a better father for her children. You may not be around as much as a dad with a 9-5 but you manage to infuse your essence even when your presence is nowhere near. You, Dad, are loved. Happy Father’s Day!